They would have to keep him in another room or he would just bark until I left. It didn't break skin, but gave him a bruise. [Breed] What breed to choose for a trauma patient? You need to create an account to submit links or post comments. Or, dogs are weird and hate some people (or other dogs) for no reason just like us. After that, I assumed a smoker had been unkind to him before came to us. Could there have been anything that could have caused him to not like him (accidentally stepping on a tail, a loud entrance, woke puppy up suddenly etc). Tags go in the title of posts and must be surrounded by [square brackets]. The only thing we could think of was that maybe the smell of my dogs on my clothing was something he didn't like. "What breed is my dog? [help] When my dogs sniff the same spot, one ends up peeing on the head of the other. The beagle didn't acknowledge him or me once in his life, not even after my dog's displays of aggression. [Survey], [Meta], and [Update] are usable when appropriate. As one expert explained about a dog taking a dislike to someone or something: “Dogs may be infinitely pure and good, but they can also be colossal weirdos and rather particular. So this Christmas dog spent most of the day in the car . Posts are automatically locked. and join one of thousands of communities. [Help]My dog dislikes ONE person in our extended family for no apparent reason. If you're looking to purchase a dog, you want to get one from a responsible breeder. When in doubt, go to the vet. She barks and digs and destroys things. Be constructive. For clarity, the car he spent Christmas afternoon in is a VW van, plenty of room, food & water etc. Growling and barking, making a fuss, when the only other time he had reacted that way was when we came across people he knew made us nervous. In fact, family members are often the hardest to deal with, because they’re connected to us in a more complicated, intimate way. My dog has been barking and growling at my uncle since he was a little puppy (5/6 months old) He's almost two now(ma dawg), and every time we've been to a family gathering he growls at my uncle. This Thanksgiving, he nipped Uncle on the back of the leg when he was just standing talking to my Dad. If possible, include information about your general location, otherwise responses will likely target the average US dog owner. She barks and chases people down the … Sometimes dogs are weird. But he HATES one family member. Sure, there’s a chance the gods will smile upon you and you’ll escape unscathed. Google "affordable vet care" or "low cost vet care" in your area. Do not partake in a thread if you have nothing helpful to contribute. [Fluff] – Stories, lighthearted discussion, or feel-good web page links. It's the same for canines: Not all dogs like all other dogs. [–]TwzlGolden Retrievers 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (0 children). ", [Help] – Need advice regarding behavior, health, or other dog-related topics. No one wants to think of euthanizing an otherwise healthy member of their canine family. [–]bludart 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (0 children). ": For best results, include clear photos of the dog standing from the front and from the side. For most dogs, one bath a month will suffice. Still, if you’ve done all you can reasonably do given the limits of your abilities and resources, and you’ve not been able to create a safe environment for your family and one of the dogs can’t be rehomed, then euthanasia is not an inappropriate decision. The Labradors’ temperament is usually described as outgoing, pleasant, and kind, all the most important qualities that a one-person dog needs to have. She was basically dumped on us by a family member about 5 years ago. If this is only once or twice a year it might not be worth making a big deal out of, but you do need a better solution to make the dog comfortable. They make no sense. The appropriate way to use multiple tags is to list them separately, [Breeds][Fluff], [Link][News], etc. If he really only has a problem with this one person, keep him kenneled. If you have a dog, you probably hate thinking about negative things, such as the signs your dog may be getting dementia. Apply for Care Credit, a credit line specifically for medical needs. While everyone around me is happily patting doggos, tagging each other in puppy memes and dreaming about their future dogs, I’m part of the rare breed whose tail doesn’t wag at the faintest sight of the four-legged creatures. Uncle has tried the super submissive non aggressive approach, and offered treats, with no results. [Help]My dog dislikes ONE person in our extended family for no apparent reason. ": Include the responses to these questions if you want to know what breed is right for you. There could be a distinguishing features about him that sets your dog off. I had no idea why he did this behavior until one day when he did I noticed that I reached down and started petting his neck! I love my dog, probably more than I love most of my actual human family. I also worked with an abused pit bull. /r/dogs is a discussion-based subreddit, meant for asking questions, sharing information, and learning about our beloved canine companions and related dog-centric topics. Check if your local humane society offers a low-cost clinic. I'm not saying this in a mean way. We laughed and probably picked him up started petting him and talking all lovely to try to calm him. My dog utterly hates & constantly attacks one person in my family. REDDIT and the ALIEN Logo are registered trademarks of reddit inc. π Rendered by PID 3847 on r2-app-0773ec80fdfdd8ba3 at 2021-01-11 00:18:00.472149+00:00 running d8cca48 country code: US. The condition/placement/lenght/colour/presence/absence of hair is an important factor in animal social behaviour, especially in pack animals like domesticated dogs, where humans are considered pack members. [Fluff] I unintentionally taught my dog to turn on the tea kettle, [Discussion] Handicapped German Shepherd passed, looking to gift her wheelchair to anyone who may need it. Now two years into a project to train dogs to go into an MRI — fully awake — so that we can better understand how their brains work, I believe the answer is: Yes, dogs miss us when we’re … (Thankfully he didn't get close!) A.First of all, congratulations on your new family member! Part of me says that dogs are good at reading humans, and if you're not that fond of your uncle for some reason, your dog knows it. We never figured out why and I've had zero problems with dogs since. Advice Please?? She asked if my dog was friendly and I said yes - just as my dog launched himself straight at this woman's face. We've had a trainer come over before to see what he could do, however he attacked the trainer and went after everyone in the family on that particular day, likely because the trainer spooked him, which meant that the trainer more or less said that there wasn't anything we could to do improve his behaviour and there was something mentally wrong with the dog. According to Google, I’m a monster. But really? I agree with /u/Amerlan. And at family gatherings, with all the chaos, you're not going to be able to micro manage the dog. My newfie loved all dogs and all people and all things, but there was one particular beagle which turned him into a rageball of raised fur, teeth and foaming drool. Full descriptions may be found here. Mariella Frostrup says she needs to focus on the real causes of … Don't forget, we're a part of the family too! I used to ride horses when I was a kid and that barn barn dog took one look at me and hated me. We were at my mother's house and a friend of her's came over. If one of your family members has a substance use problem, it can be difficult to know how to help support them through their journey to getting well. My wife & some others like to think its maybe because he's an avid hunter, and he smells something; but both of my neighbors are as well and he wags his tail and plays with them. I think even for people that generally like dogs, after 15 minutes or so the “fun” factor is out of the window and you realise that you have an animal to take care of and have your schedule revolve around for 10+ years. [–]mahmcn 4 points5 points6 points 5 years ago (4 children). It could be that you have reinforced the behavior with people laughing, or with happy tones, when he was a puppy doing the behavior. Dogs don't have to like everyone. ", [–]greatdanegal1985 9 points10 points11 points 5 years ago (1 child). I honestly don’t know where the phobia came from, but what I do know is that he was terrified, and it was getting to the point that he wouldn’t go on family walks, ride his bike around the neighborhood, or visit family members with dogs. Click here to read them. We've tried so much, switching his diet and making sure he knows that we are in charge of him, yet no matter what we try as soon as he sees my dad sat on the couch it's the same thing day in and day out. Here’s the problem with Craig’s logic: It was logical. Any idea why my dog, as a puppy, singled out my Uncle as his nemesis, and has been relentless about it ever since? Cars are rarely a comfortable temperature for long stays by a dog, and a kennel inside the house or a room or hallway baby gated off for the dog to be kept separate might make things less stressful for everyone. He would throw a fit every time he saw a 7up machine. All of these things affect your health both directly and indirectly. The other dogs that are there (1 or 2 usually) have no problem with Uncle. He is starting to get better. My sister had a dog afraid of circles. She also chased me to the car several times and wouldn't take any treats from me. Instead, here are some tips on affording veterinary care and here is a list of organizations that can provide assistance. My dog had always been fine with everyone. Their jealousy, manipulation, drama, criticism and other negative behaviors towards you can drain you emotionally, ruin your self-esteem and make you feel sick. I feel terrible about it. FYI it is typically 20 degrees warmer or cooler in a car depending on the time of year. I’m hoping to get her a doggie playmate so she won’t do those things anymore.” This plan is like walking across a freeway blindfolded. We kinda know why he hates her, she vacuumed in front of him when we first got him and it kinda freaked him out. This happens for no reason, and as much as my Dad tries to ignore him, the dog only gets angrier it seems. they are the most useless creation ever to come into existence and serve no purpose other than to fill the emotional voids of weak pathetic people. They keep this dog in a kennel when people are over. Step 3. Growling, barking, biting, snarling, lunging, or any type of aggressive behavior can be caused by a variety of reasons. Until Spenser. Or maybe a medical condition your uncle has? The cornerstone of a good relationship, family or otherwise, is trust. It's not unusual for a dog to get more attached to one family member than another. This time should be spent doing something active such as playing fetch or tug, having a training session, or trying a new sport such as agility or flyball where you and your dog can work together as a team. you want to get one from a responsible breeder, here are some tips on affording veterinary care. [–]lizzyborden42 1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (0 children). Toxic family members cause a lot of stress on you. Unless your dog is really well trained, and under perfect voice control, I'd be really leery of letting him interact with your uncle. Edit: He wasn't aggressive, just annoying with all the barking. I've accidentally done it with my dogs too and now that I've recognized that I've had to back track to solve the problem. Maybe your uncle has some scent (as others have said) that the dog associates with something bad. Beards can also be a huge problem for some otherwise very well behaved dogs. Glasses, hat, height? Q. Too freakin' MANY baths, that's what. Message the moderators if you suspect a troll. Except Fraggle. Use of this site constitutes acceptance of our User Agreement and Privacy Policy. Eventually after a few more consistent visits/treats/etc he came around to him. So I think zuzi summed it up best, "Or, dogs are weird and hate some people (or other dogs) for no reason just like us. We dogs love going on trips, whether it's to the dog park for a great game of fetch, a camping trip full of new exciting smells, or a long wet walk on the beach. Toxic family members have the advantage of gaining access to your financial information. Some exceptions may be granted to posts with a PSA quality. A woman whose family begged her to get two dogs now hates the pets – and her life. i hate all pets but i hate dogs the most. For example, I've got a Great Dane puppy (6 months old) that nibbles at my hand. This is the number of comments. Doggy went absolutely insane with rage if my father got close, until one day when my father trimmed his 6 cm beard very short; Doggy was fine with him around until the beard came back. That's the closest to a good explanation I've heard. Dogs hate baths. In one such situation, 2 big dogs bonded to the owners, but had no social contact with anyone else. and "What breeds are right for me? I go because the dog likes it though. Is there anything about your uncle that differs from the rest of the family? For example, "[RIP] Speckles, Mixed breed, 17". Even with the windows rolled down. Seriously. Check out previous trick of the months here. Being related is one such circumstance. ED: English adjectives and plurals, man. The dog was extremely dangerous. But another part of me says it doesn't really matter why that happens: what does matter is to keep everyone safe, keep your dog and uncle separated. Rendered by PID 3847 on r2-app-0773ec80fdfdd8ba3 at 2021-01-11 00:18:00.472149+00:00 running d8cca48 country code: US. If your family member steals from you, then you have an obligation to cut them out of your life. We most likely inadvertently reinforced this behavior. Nothing works. Links are submitted by members of the Fark community. She deserves that much. I was over at said friend's house, no matter what I did. So our family dachshund (3 months) is a cuddly and loving dog (if a little feisty) he loves anyone and this includes strangers. Observe your dog's behavior. These dogs were good with the people in the home, but there was no way for an extended family member to be safe in the home with these dogs being loose. Best of luck! “My dog drives me crazy. Pictures are only allowed in approved, themed picture threads (such as Photo Friday). Do not assume a user is trolling. The most common causes include conflict aggression, fear-based, defensive aggression, status related aggression, possessive aggression, food guarding aggression and redirected aggression. No one in my social circle/family smokes. She also has raised her voice at him a few times when he peed indoors. Please consider pet insurance or set aside a small amount of money every month for future veterinary expenses. He never had any issues with any other people, and I've never had any issues with any dog before or since. face palm Now I do everything in my power to be mindful of when and how and why I'm interacting with him. Something about me just pissed Fraggle off. What can we do to help ease the tension? I hate my family except for my mother cause I can understand why she couldnt take care of me as a kid. We had a little dog, who was constantly surrounded by new people, he went everywhere with us, (and was treated like a human). [–]Two_for_joyThree terrier mutts 12 points13 points14 points 5 years ago (0 children). When possible, give information such as height at the shoulder, weight, age, region of origin, and behavioral traits. Also, Christmas here this year was 75d all day. [Link][Discussion] “Excess protein enabled dog domestication during severe Ice Age Winters” / Scientific Reports / 7 Jan 2021, Bernese Adventure Bear & Screaming Search Lab. It's a jaundiced view of one of the greatest forms of love, yet sadly not unexpected since as a nation our reputation as dog-lovers is underpinned by our dismal and dysfunctional take on family life. Its only about 6/8 times a year when we all gather at my folks house, so it isn't a huge issue. [–]thekennytheykilled[S] 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (3 children), I wish it was some distinguishable feature that I could pin it on. But do you know what dogs hate more than baths? … It turns out that many dog owners tend to overwash their dogs, which can deplete their skin and fur of their natural, moisturizing oils. Advice on this forum is absolutely not a substitute for professional advice from a certified behaviorist, trainer, lawyer, or medical professional. I really loathe dog park trips because I know it's likely at least one asshole is gonna try to talk to me/talk me into things I don't give a fuck about. Be respectful. Search the subreddit for questions similar to yours. [RIP] – Memorial posts for departed pets. While adult dogs rescued from difficult situations may be the most likely to over-bond to one individual in a new home, this can also happen with dogs brought into the home as puppies, particularly if one family member assumes most or all of the puppy raising duties. Their manipulation, drama, neediness, criticism, jealousy, and other negative traits can drain you emotionally and make you feel bad about yourself. The folks over at r/dogtraining would probably have some great insight, and ideas, to help! Dogs are weird. All [RIP] posts must be approved by the moderators before they will appear in /r/dogs. Face-Palm indeed! The dog is around about 4 years old and is a Jack Russel/Yorkie breed. I'm pretty sure now that y'all did something to encourage it. A few times Uncle has shown up and Dog didn't notice, but soon as he did, he went into - raised hair between shoulders growling and barking at him- mode. She and I have become very close, but she either ignores or avoids my husband. [Breeds] – "What breed is my dog?" [Fluff] Anyone walk their dog(s) while high? The [Fluff] tag cannot be used to post ordinary dog pictures. This dog is unpredictable and has lunged for and bitten 3 or 4 people, so they have to be super vigilant. Use with the [Link] tag when linking to an outside web source. Speaking of family, a toxic sibling can become even more toxic if they're being egged on by your parents. Both of those people were smokers. We adopted a shelter dog a few months ago. My grandma's little mutt (he was, like, 4 kg) loved anything in this world but loathed my father (otherwise loved by any other dog we or our family had). When community members submit a link, they also write a custom headline for the story. Health and behavior questions: It may be helpful to include this information if you're posting a health or behavior question about your dog(s), but is not required. My husband is awesome with dogs, even the really mean ones, and he can only barely keep our dog in line. Titles of [RIP] posts must be in the following format: "[RIP] Dog name, Dog breed (optional), Dog age (optional)". single. [–]Sixpupsup 4 points5 points6 points 5 years ago* (0 children), I had a dog that apparently had issues with smokers. Click here to submit a link. [Vent] – Angry or emotionally charged posts. I've dealt with this just a couple times with client dogs, and it's something either encouraged/accidentally trained for, or totally innocuous (one dog didn't like the shampoo someone used). Some dogs are very strange about what sets them off. [–]thekennytheykilled[S] 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (2 children). [–]thekennytheykilled[S] 2 points3 points4 points 5 years ago (0 children). A total list of related subreddits may be found here, including breed subreddits, dog picture subreddits, and other animal subreddits. A brief description of the available tags is below. [–]_zuzi_ 3 points4 points5 points 5 years ago* (0 children). This is more common among guardian breeds, such as Rottweilers. I've had dogs all my life, been around tons of them and none of them had an issue with me. Other Farkers comment on the links. In fact, due to this temperament, it is not at all strange for a family to raise a Labrador pup as a one-person dog for the child. Op, if your dog's behavior gets worse, I'd suggest getting rid of him. When I told my parents about being group-raped a few times as a kid, they went silent and 5 minutes afterwards they started to talk about something else they thought so funny they laughed. There are multiple reasons that a dog may exhibit aggression toward family members. I am a dog person. Our friend is over 6ft with dreadlocks below his knees and our dog wasn't a fan. Anything a dog could misconstrue as attention for doing the right thing? Users are more likely to accept criticism when it is delivered with understanding and compassion. No duh. [Help]My dog dislikes ONE person in our extended family for no apparent reason. [–]mahmcn 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (0 children). She's a coonhound lab mix, and she's horrible. We want to go wherever you're going, and being included on family outings will strengthen our relationship with every family member. (self.dogs), submitted 5 years ago by thekennytheykilled. Well, that’s one of the first results that comes up when you search “people that don’t like dogs”. Could you also think of the first time your Uncle met your dog when they were a puppy? My uncle is a gentle, sweet guy that never has problems with other dogs. (I got him at 4 months old - but he hadn't have a great start in life.). If your dog simply growls or barks at one family member, the answer is probably yes. I was amazed and had no idea why. 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